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COMMON PROBLEMS: SEPARATION/ DIVORCE

Separating from your partner is never easy. But it can be reassuring to know that other people have been through the same things you’re experiencing.

Below we have shared some support and guidance on how to handle some common problems when separating from your partner. 

DISAGREEING ABOUT SPLITTING UP

It’s not unusual for couples to have a difference of opinion about separation. If you’re finding it hard to accept your partner’s decision....

MY PARTNER & I ARE SEPARATING...WHAT NEXT?​

The decision to separate is never an easy one. Whether the decision was yours or your partner's, you're still likely to experience...

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TELLING PEOPLE

Once you’ve decided there’s no future in your relationship, the first thing you need to do is talk openly and honestly with...

SEPARATION CHECKLISTS

Separation is a time of big change and many decisions must be made. It can help if decisions are taken calmly. Drawing up...

PARENTING SEPARATELY

Parenting separately can seem scary. People will tell you, “You'll be fine,” “You can cope,” “There’s plenty of single...

HOW DO I INTRODUCE MY NEW PARTNER TO MY CHILDREN?

Children can react in many ways when a parent gets a new partner. They may find it difficult to adjust, even if you’ve been...

TALKING TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT SEPARATION/ DIVORCE

If you’ve decided to separate from your partner you may be preparing for a difficult time with your children...

I WANT TO LEAVE...BUT I'M SCARED OF BEING LONELY

Loneliness is a frightening prospect, and one that can cause us to act in irrational ways.Staying in an unfulfilling...

SELF ESTEEM

People often have bad thoughts and feelings about themselves after a separation. This is poor self-esteem and it can stop you moving...

I DON'T LIKE MYSELF

We all have a relationship with ourselves, just as we have relationships with the other people around us. We all tend to think of ourselves in a...

RELATIONSHIPS & DEPRESSION

Depression affects one in five people in the UK and is an illness that, thankfully, people are beginning to understand better as awareness...

SURVIVING THE EMOTIONAL ROLLER-COASTER ​

Relief, guilt, failure, freedom. These are just some of the many feelings you may experience when your relationship ends and you face the...